Do you want your ex back because your relationship was good and youve never dated anyone as good as your ex or do you want your ex back just to ease your anxiety and feel secure? I want you to think about something for a moment. Its been almost 90 days since we talked and Im really wondering if he has moved on, he said he left because I betrayed him by saying I was friends with someone else he clearly holded such a grudge to and I have no idea if hes moved on or not, a few days ago that one person he holded such a grudge to tried to talk to him and he got really mad for a few hours, does this mean he hasnt moved on? Hope that you have moved on and are happy with your self. 2. Here's the downside, she's actively trying to set those feelings aside so she can go on living life without having to deal with them. Well, when it comes to making your ex miss you, and to successfully bring him back into your life, you will need to put your profiles into overdrive. I love and miss him so much, Hey Claire, it is only you who can deicide if you want to move on or not, I am happy to give you advice with whichever path you choose. In all, there are 3 legitimate reasons that come to mind. You see, most men make relationship decisions based on their emotions. Will my ex move on, and Ill never hear from my ex again?. I done so much for her in the last 2 and half months helped her with things, advice on stuff, picked her daughter up with her and thats fine I done it because I like her I expect nothing in return for good deeds but its made me feel like cant she see i made one silly mistake I was frustrated people have arguments in relationships you learn about each other in a way from these type of things!! You have managed your expectations about him reaching out during NC but you are a human being after all and you cant help but wonder why he has been silent on his end for 10 days straight. How do I tell him all this for a second chance? Your ex will never appreciate and want you when you are still in their life, wanting to communicate with them, and prove some sort of change. This is the time to work on yourself:Mentally, physically and emotionally. He wants to make sure that you'll see his name on the screen after a week of radio silence. Why would he even feel the need to get back at you?. Maybe focus more on you than herand try not to overthink things. So my ex (31F) broke up with me (26M) over a month ago after a 3 and a half year relationship. This is the 1st time we havent spoken. I feel good about myself a bit because I have the feeling I left a huge legacy and that another person will have to be extremely good to replace me. My Ex Won't Leave Me Alone! Once you've gotten your ex to refriend you, go ahead and ask her to meet up with you. The first thing I do is answer my coaching clients (since its common for them to have a lot of questions.) dont Give her the satisfaction of oh here he goes contacting me again become a ghost to her and let her reach out to you. That means there were some big unresolved issues your ex couldnt or didnt have the determination to fix. Here is the deal though. Well, like I explained above. Do I reach out? Read this before contacting the mod team. And because of this i have been so disrespectful to her. Basically, it's just too painful for him/it bothers him/he doesn't want to see photos of you or know what you're doing/he wants to get the image of you . However, if he does end up biting the bullet and contacting you in that 21-30 day window that means there is a serious internal battle going on within him. The breakup is here to teach you a lesson. Hello! Your reply to your ex should be short and sweet. It really depends on what is going on in your exs life and Isuppose I could say maybe 2 months for each phase. It sounds like you probably had feelings for your ex as well. Here is a Tips , Pretend like , you ain't even aware of such activities of her . When you ignore someone with the intent of making them want to talk to you more and instead they dont talk to you at all. My ex, who I will call Green for their privacy, had come to the sudden realization that they had Dissociative Identity Disorder around 7 . They meet someone new all the time, so they can actually forget someone they didnt care about. I have seen a lot of people with that attitude fail but I have also seen a lot of people with that attitude succeed. I wanted to impose the No Contact rule but eventually I broke it. How else can you meet other interesting and more beautiful girls if you're hanging on the memory of an indecisive girl. If you really think she is posting how happy she is to simply make you jealousthen youre letting her manipulate you. Hey April I would say that you need to complete 30 days minimum or 45 max before reaching out, Hi, we have been together for 8 months. On some level, he has an idea of when he thinks he can reach out. My last act of love for you Alison is to leave you be as you said you wanted to be. Ive gotten to know that my ex slept with someone else already about a week after the break up. It just means that with some guys you are going to have to be the one to make the first step. She is going on a lot of trips, skiing every weekend, out with friends, and spending a lot of money on Distracting herself with everything she can possibly do. more than anything for you to contact him. Ive been broken up with my ex for about a month and 2 weeks. Hi Mr J Give full vent to your feelings in the comments section below the post. Since this guide is specifically focusing on men who havent contacted you during NC lets use that as an example. Its crucial to retain your dignity and self-worth in your exs eyes when he or she says you arent good enough. There are many reasons why your ex hasn't tried to contact you. Something my ex said in a conversation still leave me thinking if I was an asshole during our relationship. Well, just because a man is stubborn and wont contact you doesnt mean that he doesnt miss you it just means what we all already know, hes an idiot :p . As no contact begins, the chances are that your ex is feeling quite upset. Lets say that you decide that you want to embark on the 30 day no contact period. To reiterate my previous statement, staying in deliberate contact with your ex that doesnt want to hear, see or be reminded of you, is a huge mistake. Which is fine. With the help from my friends I started to notice that this relationship aint going anywhere. First though, I would like to take the spotlight off of him for a while and talk about YOU. There are two main reasons why your ex (who consistently treated you poorly), unfollowed you on social media: He just can't. He's hurt either by you or by having to see your photos. She is the one with the emotional detachment issuenot you. Thats a given, since they are experiencing a wide array of relief-powered emotions. Anyways, it seems that I have developed a new pet peeve when it comes to communicating with you ladies. You know, how breakups are hard on everyone involved. They might want to be friends, they might want reconciliation, or they might want validation. In the end our relationship wasnt very physical anymore (I mean sex, because we did kiss a lot and cuddle all the time). While those emotions may be negative they are still emotions and if you play your cards right you can turn them in your favor. The worse life treats your ex, the more likely it is that your ex will remember you, ponder about you, contact you, and reconcile (or try to reconcile) with you. Im at my NC mark. Whats interesting is that I have had multiple women contact me here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery wondering if they should contact their ex after the no contact. My ex (19F) broke up with me (18F) September of last year. One example is that she is fond of writing (novels, short story etc). He actually said he isnt sure why he doesnt love me, maybe its hes afraid. The next thing I do is answer as many comments on this site as possible. Avoid letting your ex step you back from healing. Before I say anything else I just want to throw that out there. 5. Have you ever noticed how crazy people get when you ignore them? Defriending after a break up is a very different move for people than removing someone's cell phone number from their phone. Since its come to the breakup, your ex can either fix those issues or simply ignore them and carry them into the next relationship. 4. Im in not conact rule right now, respecting her decition and trying to heal my self as well. It will give you a chance to take control of your life again, get your priorities straight, and it can give you the best possible chance to mend things with your ex-girlfriend. Maybe it's because they want to warn their ex that they're about to disappear or maybe some people just think that you need to tell your ex that you're going to stop . But your situation is probably different. He called after a week that he wants to talk about his feelings and wants to focus on starting a family. Ok, so most men are more than happy to feel victimized if they were the one who had to initiate the breakup. Now heres the problem. In y case both damaged by past relationship and on top 2years go I lost my daughter. This is SOOOO wrong on so many different levels. You need to love yourself more. She is likely to experience significant grief during this time of no contact. This victimized role he is going to place himself in is going to cause him to want revenge on you in some way shape or form. Her family loved me as well and they told me they will miss me even though I will run into them from time to time. At first glance, you wouldnt think so since no contact is generally a very easy to understand idea: No Contact- A rule stating that you are not allow to call, text or get in touch with your ex boyfriend for a certain period of time. Im 4 months out from a 7-year break-up, and the past few months we hooked-up, hung out, had fun, and fought for each other here and there. I walked away not because I dont love her (till now i really do) but its because I wanted her to focus on the things that she wants in life. As to why, I don't know. And when she does, b/c she will, you will need to be a different kind a man. (Hey, who doesnt love a Captain American meme?). What does it mean if your ex boyfriend doesnt contact you during the no contact period? In the beginning of this month my boyfriend broke up with me because he said he didnt feel the same as he felt before the lockdown, he told he as been feeling like this for 3 weeks now (its important to know that he suffers from diagnosed anxiety). Fourth, Over Analyzing. Everyone is saying to not text her that she has to be the one that texts back. I'm guessing that maybe whoever shes dating tells her to block you. But if your ex is smart, your ex will work on them so that your ex doesnt encounter the same issues in the next relationship. Men are different though. I know youre hurting and dont want to be forgotten, but dont let your destroyed self-esteem affect your rational thinking. I feel for you.its painful losing someone you love. Keeping you, and their feelings, at a distance serves them. If you were to have the attitude that I described above, the entitlement attitude, then the chances are high that nothing will get done. Required fields are marked *. If your ex is constantly viewing your profile and posts, it might be time to take action and block them . I felt he is worth waiting for but he think it wont work between us.has he made his mind forever? Mistake #1) Telling your ex you're going to go "No Contact". When everyone had gone me and her were downstairs, her brother mum and daughter had gone to sleep. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. Why the No-Contact Rule Does Not Work It's fair to say that a lot of people struggle to maintain 30 dayslet alone 60 daysof no contact with their ex. You agonize and fret about what your ex is thinking and feeling at that moment of no contact. But then again, you dont want your ex to think about you in a bad light. Everyone has the right to leave a relationship. To make your ex boyfriend miss you right? Appreciate the effort though if youve replied. Very confused! At first, I supported her on this but it gave a toll on her health. Some mistakes that will complicate things for you and make your ex want to move on more than ever before are: If you want your ex to forget about you quickly, theres no better way to go about this than to make your ex feel a lot of unwanted emotions. She would concentrate more on the things she wanted to do. Or should I try to reconnect and sort things out with her.. Andtry to avoid women like this in future. To me it sounds like you have some maturing to do. Of course, no contact works, don't contact him for 30 days before reaching out to him again. She should never feel like your caretaker.Women like to feel secure In knowing that they have a man that leads. So, they are probably going to be thinking of the whole no contact experience as a game. For that one silly argument she wants to end it!! We spoke the following Tuesday for an hour. But if your ex doesnt return, he or she will probably think about you and other romantic partners significantly more than now and try to figure out if any of them can help him or her cope with anxiety. That likely wont end well for you as youll soon exhaust the person youre with and suffer another romantic rejection. You go in thinking that he is a shoe in to message you throughout the period but it doesnt happen at all. You cant fix that or them. Its obvious as no profile pic. Sometimes it is up to you to reach out and form that emotional attachment. One of the most overlooked factors when it comes to the no contact rule is how the actual breakup will affect your boyfriend. Its been almost 2wks now. Their status messages are going to show up on your news feed. i been out of the grid for 10 days so far, because even if we broke up 3 months ago, she moved to her apartment the 1th of August, I helped her to find the apartment to move, i went to the viewings with her bcs we live in Barcelona, and she does not speak spanish, I even helped her pack some things just because i wansted the best for her. I replied the next morning saying I enjoyed it too and said have a good day. I accepted the ring and later brought it back to him because I felt we should get to know each other better. Technically this guy is not an ex.. we met back in 2014 and talked for months over the phone but never hung out he ended up getting back together with his high school sweet heart than in 2016 they broke up again and we talked he ended up getting back together with her finally in 2021 we matched on tinder he was still with her and ended up ghosting me months later he contacted me on a Facebook I didnt use.. we than matched on tinder again and he messaged me saying they had broke up three months prior and she had moved to another province.. What do you think I told women to do after no contact? No Contact Rule is equal to leaving your ex-partner alone for some time (i.e a few days, some weeks, 30 days, 45+) or giving your ex some space that provokes his/her thoughts regarding your relationship. Well, its not that they cant be good its just that viewing relationships as a game is not going allow you to succeed. People struggling with this will even ask their friends what they think is going on with the ex and if they think that the ex can be gotten back. They are invested in avoiding their feelings.especially intimate ones like empathy, caring, love. Either way, no contact is your savior as it will stop your incessant need for love and connection and help you realize that if your ex doesnt want to be with you, someone else will. Hai Julian.. follow the no contact rule for urself Not to get her back Work on urself Give time for yourself to heal The first few weeks may be torturous.. Thats good because you dont want her to think she can walk in and out any time she wants to. No matter what I want YOU to be the one to text him. And also look into different living situations so you are not living together long term while broken up. Doesnt have socials. Women who often visit this site message me asking something like, My ex boyfriend doesnt seem to be affected at all by the breakup. Well, like I explained above. Most women get extremely depressed when an ex boyfriend doesn't message them at all during the no contact period. Thats just the way the human brain works. Ailie, I would suggest that you go a full 45 days NC and when he does come back that you explain this is the last time you are willing to make things work and if he leaves again you are happy to start moving on with your life. She may never change and be able to appreciate what a great guy you are!! However, if you try to call and she doesn't answer, don't worry. We were in a long distance relationship. I am doing no contact but he had already been pretty silent. She's telling you that she wanted to stay but it hurt her to do so and her unfriending you is her taki. I called after to ask for a break because things can get better once we are presencial again, which he answered yes to. As Ive written about multiple times in my experience, ex boyfriends have a tendency to contact you at the strangest of times. When I wanted to work things out he tried but then later retracted and said that the distance wouldnt work out for us since he had moved back to California and I stayed in Oregon. They may not like dumpees and have much respect for them, but they don't just forget they dated them. I contacted some close friends to talk to him but he said he wants nothing to do with me. It had never even bothered me before as I always think its the past who cares, I do think though where Ive been sitting indoors on lockdown all day these things have got to me as sitting about all day with nothing to do and I live alone so was thinking about stuff Id never usually think about. Mind you create a rough timeline (with a period of time for each phase?) For example: - You were distant and did not successfully communicate with your ex My Ex Won't Talk To Me No Matter What I Do. We had few texts in the first two week, then 10 days ago I went silent. One of the most asked questions I get from coaching clients is to explain the reasoning behind a man who doesnt contact you during the no contact period. Well, most likely you turned into a gnat that would never leave the guy alone. Free shipping for many products! If he's tired of being with you, then doing no contact is your way of respecting his decision. These things are completely out of your control. Taking his or her focus off you and putting it on something or someone else would allow your ex to distance himself or herself from issues that created a lot of negative emotions. Your ex has already broken up with you and broken the trust, so your ex focusing on something or someone else wont make much of a difference. Even if he hasnt texted me? Should I answer??? The problem with stubborn men is that they wont want to communicate. I mean, I already compromise a lot of things for our relationship like I refused a job offer to work in another country just to stay near for her. A Bothersome Ex. 3. All I have to say is, Karma is a bitch good luck with AIDS you hoe. He broke up 3 weeks ago. Weve already mentioned that a narcissistic personality disorder, a lot of dating partners, and a short-term relationship could make your ex forget about you. No need to unfriend or block him if you take these steps. It can be entirely possible that the no contact rule was working you just have no idea because he has an amazing poker face. Men are expected to make the first move, pay for dates, text first, etc, etc (you get the idea.) Firstly, the no contact rule is only step one in the process. In other words, the how part of him getting back at you?. And if he doesnt feel it, then maybe he just doesnt love me like he would love another woman. 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